Enough of all this "do what makes you happy" horse$hit. Jeebus and people wonder why kids are so facked up these days. What in the holy hell are some of you panty waists teaching them? Suck it up. Sack up and find your common ground again. Get some counseling. For phack's sake, do some actual work on your marriage. Not just for her or you, but for your kids. Everyone just throws I the damn towel anymore. "We've grown apart". Boo phacking hoo. It's about more than YOU now. If your wife were cheating that would be a TOTALLY different story. Anything else, get your priorities in order and suck it up. Good gawd, I'm tired of hearing that lame a$$ bullchit. The grass ain't greener. In time you'll see that and then you've phacked up your life, her life AND, most importantly, the kid's lives. Then you've got the guilt to deal with too. smfh
Ugh, both my kids were exponentially happier when I got divorced. The let's do it for the sake of the kids stuff is mostly an appeasement to your own ego and guilt. Unknown to most of us, kids don't want miserable parents. I stuck with her for the kids for five years too long.
Not being a dick at all. I think a lot of times it's a cop out and it's the kids who suffer because of it. If your spouse is being an a$$hole, there's a reason behind it. Go to counseling. If they won't change and/or you won't change, well, then at least you've tried to work through it. It's not dickish to say that. "We've grown apart" is phacking lame. If you don't have kids, then nobody's worse for the wear for ending it (like $, for instance). But kids make it more than about just you. It's being a dick to only think of yourself and put your happiness in front of your kids. You want to argue that and, well, we have nothing to talk about because you're wrong. Good talk.
I get that. If you can't work it out and all you do is fight. But if somebody just says "we've talked it through and we've just grown apart and WE (the parents) would be happier splitting up", that just horse$hit. That's putting your happiness in front of your kids without even trying. I've seen all your posts about what an absolute b!tch your ex-wife was (is?) and there's no doubt the kids were better off not having to listen to constant fighting. My point was/is to try to resolve the issues and bridge the gap between the two if at all possible. To at least TRY. I'm not sure how that's being a dick. Must be a Czech thing.
You assume that all kids want their parents together (and miserable). I'm absolutely positive they would rather have them apart (and happy). Plus, marriage is nothing but an outdated religious ritual. It's a silly foundation based on magic that never existed. Only gays should get married.
Miserable = fighting. Again, I'd agree that if that's the case and there's no moving forward then it's in EVERYBODY'S best interest to split.
I've been laughing so hard on this post that I have tears in my eyes. Even though the vernacular is different, I agree with what you have said my friend.
