Already tried the counseling thing. Didn't work. Wife doesn't like it or want to go.
It is what it is. If you are one of the 10% or so of people who have working, healthy relationships with your SO, I hope you appreciate it. I'm not saying you didn't work hard for it, didn't compromise dearly for it or pay for it in one way or another--you did. But you should also appreciate it greatly.
I'll get it one day, I hope. Or I'll be happily ensconced on my mountain with my books, traveling down to the hooky compound to get my fresh grown vegetables and recently slaughtered venison. Could be happy either way, I think.