Parenting and teenage parties
- By BradStevens
- The Water Cooler
- 120 Replies
I'm not sure I follow your second point.I'm going to answer this will bullets because it's spurred a ton of tangents.
- The Parents - WTF dude, these are frosh and maybe sophs in HS. To actually throw an alcohol induced and drug allowed party is insanity. One, these kids are still pretty young. Two, the liability is insane - we're talking many, many years in prison. Why didn't the cops arrest these fools? Anyone with that kind of judgment isn't likely a good parent in the first place.
- The Kids - JFC, if this is the future of our generation, we might as well pray for the asteroid. I cannot help but think of Vince Vaughn in Wedding Crashers
If they can't have fun and enjoy each other's company and attraction with a little booze and some Halloween costumes, global warming doesn't matter.
- Kids - Brad, I don't remember if you have any daughters too, but curious if you would have a different level of support for a daughter vs. son. My oldest is a girl and I already know I have different (double) standards and no amount of reasoning is going to change that.
My oldest is a girl. 17. I actually tried to convince her and her friend to crash a different party going on because they have never been to one (they go to the all-girl's Catholic school here). They didn't crash that one, but did coincidentally go to another one in Oak Park last night, their first. Also had alcohol there, apparently. No clue if parents were home or condoned it.
I trust both kids, but want to make sure they understand my expectations. I told daughter when she got home (11ish, she texted me when they left the party and were heading to Taco Bell), I don't want you drinking, but if you do, I want you to call me and I'll pick you up wherever, whenever rather than ride or drive with someone who has been drinking. Now, had I found out my 14-year-old daughter went to a party and wore some revealing costume and booze was involved, I'd be knocking on those parents' door today and we'd have a conversation.
FWIW, I don't think the parents were condoning the drugs, I think some kids showed up high.