I've had several friends pass away in the last 2 or 3 years: George, another George, Miriam, Garrett....
None of them died quickly. I know 3 of them had cancer. I think all of them had cancer.
My dad died of cancer. Mom died from COPD complications......
I plan to live into my 70's.... maybe 80 or so. Then I plan to stop living.....
It's not that I plan to die - I just don't plan to live much past 80.... don't want to.... don't need to.... If I haven't done it by the time I'm 80 it isn't going to get done.
I'll be 60 soon....
My friends and family who passed away did not just stop living - they died slowly, over a matter of months or years.... their bodies gradually stopped working, one piece at a time.
I have 2 aunts still living. One is 82. The other is 95. The 82 year old Aunt is waiting to die. The 95 year old Aunt is still living and will probably live to be 100, barring some calamity. She doesn't really want to, but she probably will, and she will live during those years, not wait to die.
My 82 year old Aunt's husband is senile, doesn't know who she is, and lives 1000 miles away in a nursing home near his son because they could not afford the ones near Los Angeles. She hasn't seen him in over a year, since he left, and will never see her husband again. She can't afford to travel there, and can't physically make the trip even if she could afford it, so she lives on her patio with her cats.
My otherwise healthy Aunt-once-removed fell a couple of weeks ago and hit her head. Never regained conciousness and died the next day. She lived right up until she died.
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I don't think we plan to end up waiting to die. If you're like me you plan to live a full life and then, one day, like Aunt Lottie, you will simply stop living.
From what I've seen it doesn't usually work out that way.
What does all that have to do with Thanksgiving? I am so grateful to have been able to spend the holiday with all my siblings and their children and our grandchildren, excepting one nephew who has a girlfriend and opted to have T-Day with her. My niece asked "Who gave him the idea that this gathering is optional?"
I plan to get out there and live! To live until I stop! I don't want regrets when I'm done!
I hope everyone had an enjoyable Holiday and, as we enter the Christmas season, may all your lives be full.
This post was edited on 11/30 3:02 PM by DougS
None of them died quickly. I know 3 of them had cancer. I think all of them had cancer.
My dad died of cancer. Mom died from COPD complications......
I plan to live into my 70's.... maybe 80 or so. Then I plan to stop living.....
It's not that I plan to die - I just don't plan to live much past 80.... don't want to.... don't need to.... If I haven't done it by the time I'm 80 it isn't going to get done.
I'll be 60 soon....
My friends and family who passed away did not just stop living - they died slowly, over a matter of months or years.... their bodies gradually stopped working, one piece at a time.
I have 2 aunts still living. One is 82. The other is 95. The 82 year old Aunt is waiting to die. The 95 year old Aunt is still living and will probably live to be 100, barring some calamity. She doesn't really want to, but she probably will, and she will live during those years, not wait to die.
My 82 year old Aunt's husband is senile, doesn't know who she is, and lives 1000 miles away in a nursing home near his son because they could not afford the ones near Los Angeles. She hasn't seen him in over a year, since he left, and will never see her husband again. She can't afford to travel there, and can't physically make the trip even if she could afford it, so she lives on her patio with her cats.
My otherwise healthy Aunt-once-removed fell a couple of weeks ago and hit her head. Never regained conciousness and died the next day. She lived right up until she died.
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I don't think we plan to end up waiting to die. If you're like me you plan to live a full life and then, one day, like Aunt Lottie, you will simply stop living.
From what I've seen it doesn't usually work out that way.
What does all that have to do with Thanksgiving? I am so grateful to have been able to spend the holiday with all my siblings and their children and our grandchildren, excepting one nephew who has a girlfriend and opted to have T-Day with her. My niece asked "Who gave him the idea that this gathering is optional?"
I plan to get out there and live! To live until I stop! I don't want regrets when I'm done!
I hope everyone had an enjoyable Holiday and, as we enter the Christmas season, may all your lives be full.
This post was edited on 11/30 3:02 PM by DougS