We "tried" not to do much damage but we utterly destroyed both Germany and Japan. Allied strategic bombing is thought to have killed 350-500,000 Germans and 330-900,000 Japanese plus an additional 112,000 in Hiroshima and Nagasaki.
I don't think the Israelis are going total destruction either. I am saying that if you put the missiles that are shooting at my country on the roof of a hospital, I am blowing up the missiles. The fact the hospital gets destroyed along with it isn't my fault. If you set up your terrorist offices in a mosque, I am bombing the mosque. Also not my fault. If I have intelligence that a high value leader of your group is in an apartment building, I am taking him out.
You know when they will stop using things like hospitals, schools, and mosques as shields for their terrorists? About the time they realize we don't view that as a shield anymore.
I get it, and I agree. At the same point, I recall Jesse Ventura saying that if America were occupied you could sure bet he would hide weapons in churches if that is what it took. Sadly that is the nature of the rules of war, the stronger force wants rules, and the weaker doesn't want them and won't abide. But at some point, the lack of food and medicine in Gaza is going to surpass the attack on Israel and Israel is going to lose their support.