I don't know where else to put this so I'll put it here.
My son, who I have written about before, is not a very good athlete. He's slow, bad eyesight, average coordination, now small for his age. He's struggled to find a sport he can be good at--and I realized when he was about 8, while coaching him in baseball, he would never be great at any athletic endeavor.
I'm OK with that. Sports was a part of my youth (although I was never as good as I thought I was) but it doesn't need to be a part of his, except that his peer group really is into sports like mine was, so he feels left out. He's had some rough times with this in the past.
Well, about 1.5 years ago, he says he wants to play hockey. He was 10 at the time (12 now) and didn't know how to skate. Here in Chicago, you learn to skate before you can walk if you want to play hockey. But he really wanted it. So we got him into skating/hockey lessons where he was the oldest in the class by about 4 or 5 years. He graduated each class, bumped up in level, and eventually, last spring, he played on a hockey team. He was by far the worst player, but his coach got him a lot of playing time, and he improved.
Yesterday, was the first game of the fall/winter season. He's still one of the worst skaters on the team, but damn does he try hard. He really goes at it while on the ice. And to my great surprise, he got his first goal of his life yesterday in Hammond, Indiana. It was a one-timer, and tied up the game with a minute left in the 3rd. His teammates mobbed him afterwards. My dad was there to see it and we cheered and high-fived, and I openly wept with joy. Afterwards, my son said it was one of the happiest moments of his life. Yes, I know, this is a game with 12-year-olds--it is ridiculous.
He may never score another goal. He might never make a team other than these house-league teams I'm paying for. But I will never forget that moment or that goal. I know many dads don't get that moment, or some are wrapped up worrying about so much else with their kids, they might fail to appreciate those special, little moments (I'm guilty of this far too often). But right now, I'm just so happy for my son that he feels as if he's accomplished something, and I think that's good stuff.