It is the Walmart of strip joints.Me? Dude....you obviously are new here. I champion that place. Dug is the Hugger snob
DWS of course...except for the Dug being a Hugger snob comment.
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It is the Walmart of strip joints.Me? Dude....you obviously are new here. I champion that place. Dug is the Hugger snob
DWS of course...except for the Dug being a Hugger snob comment.
I feel we definitely made the right decision having her admitted. My wife and I visited her from 5:30-6:30 last night and she already seems much better. She knows she’s safe from harming herself and can just focus on getting better. We spent the hour talking and laughing and looking for things to look forward to in the near and distant future. She says she’s motivated to get better which is why she wanted to be admitted more than we did originally.
While she’s severely depressed i like that the facility has recognized that helping her with the eating disorder is the first step in her recovery so she can physically handle this hard work of day long therapy. They won’t force feed her but she’s on an aggressive diet of 1500 calories per day with the goal of her gaining 1 lb per day.
the messed up thing is that as she gains weight to get healthier it can trigger a negative response because she knows she’s adding weight if her clothes start to fit more properly. They do blind weight checks but kids are pretty smart. So hoping she gains the weight and gets through that part ok.
I can’t wait to visit her tonight...giving her up was the best thing but very painful yesterday.
Thanks again for allowing me to vent here when there really isn’t another place I can be so candid.
You're a good man, Eppy!I feel we definitely made the right decision having her admitted. My wife and I visited her from 5:30-6:30 last night and she already seems much better. She knows she’s safe from harming herself and can just focus on getting better. We spent the hour talking and laughing and looking for things to look forward to in the near and distant future. She says she’s motivated to get better which is why she wanted to be admitted more than we did originally.
While she’s severely depressed i like that the facility has recognized that helping her with the eating disorder is the first step in her recovery so she can physically handle this hard work of day long therapy. They won’t force feed her but she’s on an aggressive diet of 1500 calories per day with the goal of her gaining 1 lb per day.
the messed up thing is that as she gains weight to get healthier it can trigger a negative response because she knows she’s adding weight if her clothes start to fit more properly. They do blind weight checks but kids are pretty smart. So hoping she gains the weight and gets through that part ok.
I can’t wait to visit her tonight...giving her up was the best thing but very painful yesterday.
Thanks again for allowing me to vent here when there really isn’t another place I can be so candid.
Let her have bacon...I feel we definitely made the right decision having her admitted. My wife and I visited her from 5:30-6:30 last night and she already seems much better. She knows she’s safe from harming herself and can just focus on getting better. We spent the hour talking and laughing and looking for things to look forward to in the near and distant future. She says she’s motivated to get better which is why she wanted to be admitted more than we did originally.
While she’s severely depressed i like that the facility has recognized that helping her with the eating disorder is the first step in her recovery so she can physically handle this hard work of day long therapy. They won’t force feed her but she’s on an aggressive diet of 1500 calories per day with the goal of her gaining 1 lb per day.
the messed up thing is that as she gains weight to get healthier it can trigger a negative response because she knows she’s adding weight if her clothes start to fit more properly. They do blind weight checks but kids are pretty smart. So hoping she gains the weight and gets through that part ok.
I can’t wait to visit her tonight...giving her up was the best thing but very painful yesterday.
Thanks again for allowing me to vent here when there really isn’t another place I can be so candid.
Kid is hanging in there. She says she’s feeling better, but it’s hard to accept it when she sounds so meek and down. I keep thinking though how wouldn’t anyone feel down being in the same situation.
They took her clothes and she has to wear these plastic looking scrubs because they she said she had suicidal thoughts last night. I guess they call it “line of sight” where someone has to always be able to see her for a period of time, even to go to the bathroom.
Its hard sometimes to believe her when she says she’s getting better, especially when she’s wearing these horrible looking scrubs.
She has put on a little bit of weight from the high caloric diet they have her on. That’s something positive I guess...
I’m trying to stay positive, it’s just hard when you see your kid looking like a shell of themselves.
My daughter is a supervisor in a place like you are describing. They do great work and she loves helping people with eating disorders. Good luck to your daughter and to you.I feel we definitely made the right decision having her admitted. My wife and I visited her from 5:30-6:30 last night and she already seems much better. She knows she’s safe from harming herself and can just focus on getting better. We spent the hour talking and laughing and looking for things to look forward to in the near and distant future. She says she’s motivated to get better which is why she wanted to be admitted more than we did originally.
While she’s severely depressed i like that the facility has recognized that helping her with the eating disorder is the first step in her recovery so she can physically handle this hard work of day long therapy. They won’t force feed her but she’s on an aggressive diet of 1500 calories per day with the goal of her gaining 1 lb per day.
the messed up thing is that as she gains weight to get healthier it can trigger a negative response because she knows she’s adding weight if her clothes start to fit more properly. They do blind weight checks but kids are pretty smart. So hoping she gains the weight and gets through that part ok.
I can’t wait to visit her tonight...giving her up was the best thing but very painful yesterday.
Thanks again for allowing me to vent here when there really isn’t another place I can be so candid.
...Been working to get the house safe.
Thanks for sharing all you have with us concerning your daughter. You may help someone else in the process.Keeping my fingers crossed kid gets to come home today. Family session at 10:00am to decide. I honestly think she’s ready. Been working to get the house safe.
Thanks for sharing all you have with us concerning your daughter. You may help someone else in the process.
Serious, hoping not to sound like a dick question: If you "honestly think she's ready" to come home, why do you think there's a need to "get the house safe"? That tells me she's still a danger to herself, not ready to come home. How do the professionals view this?
I understand your point completely. And knowing what I know about alcoholics and "treatment", your comparison is apt; I'm not sure how comparable the temptation of a bottle of Jack is to an alky as is the temptation of a pair of scissors to someone with suicidal ideation. That's why I asked what the professionals' take was.That's like saying why get rid of the liquor in the house if an alcoholic has been through treatment? You're dealing with people, you remove as much temptation as you can from their environment. The f'd up thing to me is that if she comes home and still tries to hurt herself, they might feel like they did something wrong or not enough, when the reality is, you can't make an environment safe from someone intent on hurting themselves.
I understand your point completely. And knowing what I know about alcoholics and "treatment", your comparison is apt; I'm not sure how comparable the temptation of a bottle of Jack is to an alky as is the temptation of a pair of scissors to someone with suicidal ideation. That's why I asked what the professionals' take was.
As in so many things, it all boils down to where you can reasonably draw the line.
Keeping my fingers crossed kid gets to come home today. Family session at 10:00am to decide. I honestly think she’s ready. Been working to get the house safe.
she ain't that tiny!Tiny victories matter.
It’s just part of a safety plan..they have everyone do it. It’s just about being proactive. Not every kid will succeed coming home, but some will.Thanks for sharing all you have with us concerning your daughter. You may help someone else in the process.
Serious, hoping not to sound like a dick question: If you "honestly think she's ready" to come home, why do you think there's a need to "get the house safe"? That tells me she's still a danger to herself, not ready to come home. How do the professionals view this?
Quit @ing me bitch ... and quit sending nudes to my phone no one needs to see that shit.Kid is home! Her sisters were all in tears when they saw her...I think I will be tonight as well at our Shabbat dinner. Just thankful to have her back home. Gotta lot of work to do now. I’m hopeful though.
thanks for all your support on here. You guys have been great but don’t let it get to your heads. You actually have some redeeming qualities. Except for @T.M.P. hes still a dick
How old are your kids?Kid is home! Her sisters were all in tears when they saw her...I think I will be tonight as well at our Shabbat dinner. Just thankful to have her back home. Gotta lot of work to do now. I’m hopeful though.
thanks for all your support on here. You guys have been great but don’t let it get to your heads. You actually have some redeeming qualities. Except for @T.M.P. hes still a dick
Best of luck, my friend, to you and your family.Kid is home! Her sisters were all in tears when they saw her...I think I will be tonight as well at our Shabbat dinner. Just thankful to have her back home. Gotta lot of work to do now. I’m hopeful though.
thanks for all your support on here. You guys have been great but don’t let it get to your heads. You actually have some redeeming qualities. Except for @T.M.P. hes still a dick
So had a really nice dinner at home. Kid ate a lot of food mostly because she knows it’s required. The problem with that is she starts to feel guilty and somewhat sad afterwards. As I’ve been learning so many of these harmful things such as cutting and eating disorders are about control. So as she gains weight (which everyone but her wants) she must feel like she’s losing control. I’m not sure there’s anything I can tell her yet that makes her feel different. What can she gain that gives her control again that’s not unhealthy. I’m sure if I think about it a bit I’ll figure it out, but I share in her sadness because she must feel so isolated in her feelings like nobody understands her. It really is sad...I want to give her an idea to grasp onto to replace her loss of control.
Monday she starts her intensive outpatient program for just the eating disorder. It can’t come soon enough so I can learn how to support her needs better rather than just requiring her to eat the food I’ve given her. That part kinda sucks.
Great points...reminded me that she wants to be a doctor. She can’t help others unless she gets control of her life.1) she gains life and health. She gains control of herself and direction. Continuing down her previous path, she needs to realize that she didnt really have control of either.
2) she can learn more about this and help others, which is something she can focus on and help.give her control of something. Whether as a counselor, dietitian, fitness, ect...
Horseback riding. No, I am not kidding. Same horse every time on a regular (minimum weekly) basis.So as she gains weight (which everyone but her wants) she must feel like she’s losing control. I’m not sure there’s anything I can tell her yet that makes her feel different. What can she gain that gives her control again that’s not unhealthy. I’m sure if I think about it a bit I’ll figure it out,
That’s a really interesting idea. Thanks I’ll look into it.Horseback riding. No, I am not kidding. Same horse every time on a regular (minimum weekly) basis.
Horseback riding. No, I am not kidding. Same horse every time on a regular (minimum weekly) basis.
Young teen girls are nuts about horses. And learning how to "control" a 1200 lb. animal gives them confidence and a sense of accomplishment.That’s a really interesting idea. Thanks I’ll look into it.
Horseback riding. No, I am not kidding. Same horse every time on a regular (minimum weekly) basis.
Young teen girls are nuts about horses. And learning how to "control" a 1200 lb. animal gives them confidence and a sense of accomplishment.
No need to go whole hog with a high end English riding school with all the fancy clothes/gear; find a Western pleasure oriented stable that is focused more on fun than on competition. Trail riding rather than ring work would be the best starting point.
You'd best stick with an old gelded nag.I think that might be good for me too: riding, breaking and controlling a wild little filly. I can see the satisfaction in that!
There are stables that offer "equine therapy", but I wouldn't be too concerned with finding one that claims as much. Find a stable that offers lessons, assigns her "her" horse, make a regular schedule, and has her start with the basics -- including grooming and the like. The good ones will know what she's capable of and where she needs to start. Some kids are "horse crazy" and just want to jump on them and go; others need to be brought along slowly, with small accomplishments and successes building on themselves. I've seen it work (was actually involved in doing this type of thing 50 years ago), and when it works well it's transformative.That is a good idea. I don't know what it is, but there is often some connection between women and horses specifically, and animals in general. Seems like I've read about stables that offer riding as part of a therapy plan and it might even extend to grooming the horse?