Thanks. We actually planned to have two kids. We already had our daughter before those two miscarriages. After the second the Doctor told her she couldn't/shouldn't have another one. Both miscarriages happened when I was out to sea, so that made it harder.
Thanks. Rougher because I was out at sea both times and she was home with our daughter in Japan. However, all the officer and Sailor wives she was friends with rallied around and took care of her.
I'm sorry for being the way I am and sorry for you loss. I just about lost everyone and the only thing I have left is my inlaws.
39!!!! Shit pick your chin up. You got enough time to wreck yourself two or three more times. You’ve got so much fun waiting for you, you don’t even know it
I’m very sorry to hear that, sweetsilence.
@sweetsilence ditto. Including having someone tuned up
My wife's grandmother had 12 kids almost 13, number 13 died because she got sides wiped in a car accident
Don't get me wrong. I'm not asking for sympathy or anything.
my grandfather had polio. one leg was like a broomstick. walked with a cane. used to walk his back yard with a dagger coming out of it to kill moles. he marveled at me playing soccer. all of us. just watching kids run. his upper body was incredibly powerful. on dares growing up with his friends they'd recount how he used to swim across the Mississippi. not a small feat. he shook babe ruth's hand. the babe visited the kids at children's when he was in there. for many years the lettering on busch beer cans was his. had two kids with cf. my aunts. they both died at 5. my grandmother started our cystic fibrosis foundation. his son, my dad, went to vietnam, along with my uncles. my one uncle was a marine. like a white bo jackson. would tell me at the driving range to just get a small basket of balls bc when people see him hit they'll buy the balls. he could hit it out of the complex. every ball. his brother was a lineman at mizzou. fought the great steve stipanovich in a bar. but he was messed up bad from vietnam. the only job he could hold down was at my other uncle's company laying asphalt. but someone would piss him off and he'd pound them and leave. drive a cab. lived in my grandma's basement. real bad ptsd. he was amazing. became real close with a bunch of wrestlers. andre the giant, dick the bruiser, king kong brody, harley race, etc. and drag racers lol. big daddy don garletts. he and his football brother never missed a soccer game of mine, tho they thought it was the single gayest thing they'd ever witnessed. from the socks to the shorts they couldn't believe it was actually a thing.
Very sorry for you and your wife. Can’t imagine a woman going through that once let alone twice.
We were thinking a male (and now one female) support group. Like a book club or something.
watch the arnold Schwarzenegger doc. it's great. and not aimed at you sweetsilence but he has a moment where he talks about the generations after him, i'm so sad, i'm so depressed, woe is me, and he says he has never and will never be that. go do something. run. lift weights. get a project. do something. anything. but stay too busy to worry about anything. keep going forward and keep yourself busy. pretty damn good advice
100 percent true, and she brings it up 30 years later too.
