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We're Doomed a/k/a I don't where else to put this

Gotta love this thread.

We may not all agree about our politics, but when it comes to the tough job of raising children we have a great deal of empathy for each other.

If we stopped to think about it, whether on the left or right politically, we share a lot of important values.
It's why I love this board hoot and why I choose to interact with it they way I do. I don't bring strong opinions (except as it relates to mature women and @mcmurtry66 ) I bring a somewhat open mind. AS open as I can be at near 50.
 
I don't think it's dysfunctional for someone who has means to assist their parents that need help, to do so.

I think it dysfunctional when there is an expectation that the child live at home, often via a lot of guilt trips, emotional abuse, etc... At the request/demand of the parent so as to support them.
OK, that's fair. Not how you presented it at first, but I agree with this explanation.
 
Also I'll say in the example I mentioned above with the furnace... But also saw this same thing from a mother of an ex girlfriend. The parents came from very conformable upbringing... The grandparents in both cases were fairly well off but the parents blew it all and were still attempting to live lifestyles they were long used to. To the point they couldn't cover basic living costs without hitting up their kids in their early 20s for money. Fkn boomers. :D
I'm a boomer, jackhole. lol And we live a helluva lot more conservatively than my millennial daughter and son-in-law.
 
If we stopped to think about it, whether on the left or right politically, we share a lot of important values.

Agree...

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Yep - her childhood home is probably nice and she probably posts on social media like it's her place. And there is definitely a stigma to living way out in the Inland Empire. Not saying I agree with it, but it's there.
All depends on where in the IE. Some places are nice. And some...
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Yeah but you're a good parent and I'm sure your daughter actually likes you deep down. Some people do have very dysfunctional parents that actually expect their kids to provide for them. Knew this guy from college that had some real piece of work parents that expected him to move home after graduation because they couldn't afford their own lifestyle. Got so bad they couldn't pay for a new furnace when it broke and he had to buy it.
That's my retirement plan you're busting on there, twenty. Watch it.
 
I don't know, man. The way you're sounding, I'm waiting for you to next break out with something like,

"And their music? You can't even understand the words that they're singing!"

I'm generally much more impressed by Gen Z kids than I am Boomers. The world has changed A LOT and the generations change alongside that. The many mistakes I made as an 18-22 year old would completely derail my life if I made them as a teenager today. We somehow simultaneously expect way too much and way too little of kids these days.🤷‍♂️
Their music ****ing sucks, hoosboot. God awful. Putrid.
 
Some of it’s really good. Kendrick, Caamp, Zack Bryan…all so good.

The pop is undeniably bad. Putrid. God awful.

Saw Caamp at Bluebird for the first time in March 2019. From there they became festival favorites. Saw them at Shakey Knees and then Forecastle. Hung out w their parents backstage at Forecastle...they were just flabbergasted by the success.

Great band and good dudes...despite the fact they're kinda Buckeyes. 😄
 
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These kids are a crap shoot. Yesterday mine tells me we have to hit the sporting goods store. Words she’s used before but never in that order. I assume for a hoodie. I go for what? I start lacrosse next week and need to get everything 🤣🤣.

Fine. We’re leaving the tags on all of the gear
It sure is expensive to help your kids find interests. I would say my biggest expense to my parents was the trumpet they bought me in 7th grade. I paid for my own colleges perhaps they got off cheap.
 
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It sure is expensive to help your kids find interests. I would say my biggest expense to my parents was the trumpet they bought me in 7th grade. I paid for my own colleges perhaps they got off cheap.
Yes sir. Me too. I was cheap. I got this for my birthday every year. That was it. Exactly this. And back then youth sports sponsors were actual sponsors. Soccer was free. And it was actually select. You made the team or you went home. One team per age group



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Yes sir. Me too. I was cheap. I got this for my birthday every year. That was it. Exactly this. And back then youth sports sponsors were actual sponsors. Soccer was free. And it was actually select. You made the team or you went home. One team per age group



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And you had to kick the ball uphill both halves in ten feet of snow. 🤣
 
And you had to kick the ball uphill both halves in ten feet of snow. 🤣
I went by the place where I played youth soccer. Had like two full size fields and a bunch of kiddie field when I was young. Freaking complex now with a turf field to boot.

But to pay for that they now let everybody on a team and cash your check. I’m not sure that’s better.
 
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I went by the place where I played youth soccer. Had like two full size fields and a bunch of kiddie field when I was young. Freaking complex now with a turf field to boot.

But to pay for that they now let everybody on a team and cash your check. I’m not sure that’s better.
Complex. Turf field. Locked.
 
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Ridiculous with the obesity in this country. But again, you build all this super fancy shit and then have to worry about people ****ing it up. When i was young the fields sucked and you were happy they had lines on them.

But they were NEVER locked.
Ours is so Fing cool. I would have killed for it. It’s always locked. Permits….
 
Hope you own some farm land. Probably can get $25,000-$30,000 per acre.

That may change, I know of three farmers having to file bankruptcy in last few weeks. Low corn and soybean prices are killing farmers.
Is it one farm consisting of three farmers, or three separate farms?

I'm guessing they bought some $25k ground? $5k is too much in this environment.
 
It sure is expensive to help your kids find interests. I would say my biggest expense to my parents was the trumpet they bought me in 7th grade. I paid for my own colleges perhaps they got off cheap.

Parents bought me a trombone in 5th grade.

Was fully qualified, (1) Long arms, (2) Strong lips, (3) and most importantly a father who could afford to buy a trombone.

Never was very good. In tryouts for band seating, last chair was automatically assigned to me.

Took up playing sports in 7th Grade and retired from show business.

The trombone was finally pawned by my son without me knowing it when he was in High School. Am sure he used the money to further his academic pursuits 🐱.
 
Kids can surprise. On my son’s graduation day at IU I got a really sick feeling. I had spoiled him rotten and he never had to work for anything. I wondered if I’d have to take care of him the rest of his life.
I know we spoiled our daughter but she's never acted spoiled so we still spoil her. .... especially her two kids. :)

He said “no way!” Lol.
He didn't want to work for a mean boss. 🤣
 
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Is it one farm consisting of three farmers, or three separate farms?

I'm guessing they bought some $25k ground? $5k is too much in this environment.
Someone just paid 20k for a hundred acres here. Another old timer turned down a 16k offer.

There has to be someone that needs to spend some money involved
 
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I know we spoiled our daughter but she's never acted spoiled so we still spoil her. .... especially her two kids. :)


He didn't want to work for a mean boss. 🤣
He didn’t want to work as hard as dad. Lol.

Probably my all time most proud moment with my son was in grade school. We were called to school. When we got to the Principal’s office, the parents of a mentally challenged student was there and they had tears in their eyes. My first thought was “oh no!” Turns they asked to meet us and thank us. Our son kind of adopted their son and included him with the activities my son and his friends where involved in. I guess if anyone made fun of their son, our son also intervened. Spoiled or not he had a good heart.
 
Is it one farm consisting of three farmers, or three separate farms?

I'm guessing they bought some $25k ground? $5k is too much in this environment.
Three different farm families. And yes they bought too much crazy expensive land.
 
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